Growing up in the 90’s was an interesting experience. I have loads of interesting memories and one of them was a song that was quite the hit in our local Sunday school morning sessions, it went something like this
O be careful little eyes what you see O be careful little eyes what you see For the Father up above Is looking down in love So, be careful little eyes what you see
I remember our excited little voices, singing in off-key, high pitch with our dark innocent eyes glowing. Our actions in-sync as we covered our little eyes and pointed to heaven up above, imagining a great big God looking down to us.
I only wish I paid more attention to this song, it would come to haunt me later on in my adult life.
One day during my mid-primary years one of the boys in our class changed my young life forever. It was during our mid-morning break, I was coming back to class with a bunch of my friends, laughing while munching on a ‘combi’ (mandazi with a samosa tucked inside it). We found a group of our classmates crowded round the desk of one young fellow at class. The item of interest was a colourful magazine. He had found it in the bottom drawer of his parents’ wardrobe. A copy of the latest ‘Playboy’ issue.
Our little innocent eyes were opened that day, never to know childlike innocence again. His parent(s), thinking that they were discreet enough, did not think that what they did in the secrecy of their bedroom, would end up in their son’s classroom. We, in our innocent curiosity were introduced to the dark world that wonderful morning.
If only I knew then what I know now, I would have never looked at that magazine, or anything with a sexual connotation. Those pictures would be imprinted forever in my growing sub-conscious mind and the trajectories of the lives of me & those boys in that primary classroom would forever be changed.
O be careful little eyes what you see.
Do Not Awaken Love
One of the most popular phrases written by King Solomon is one of my absolute favourites
Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right. Young Women of Jerusalem Song of Solomon 8:4
Now, that I am married to my Gathoni, this verse now makes perfect sense. God wanted to protect my/our memories. He wanted to ensure that I would fully enjoy sexual pleasure with my young wife without the annoyance of memories that I could not get rid off. Just imagine every-time you look at your gorgeous wife an image/experience from your ugly past pops up! Worse off when the two of you are trying to get ‘jiggy’ with it!
My little eyes were forever opened that day and I had unknowingly awakened love before the time was right.
Solomon here equates the romantic love between a husband and wife to a fiery flame. The flame can either warm you up or burn your house down. Timing is everything, as Solomon puts it. If the flame is awakened outside the safety of the marriage bed, you bet your ‘house’ will burn down. That magazine, awakened a fire inside us that day, much earlier than what God had intended for us, and my struggle with the fire of sexual desire had its genesis then.
I beg you, ladies and gentlemen do not awaken love (sexual desire) until the time is right.
Make A Covenant With Your Eyes
Job, one of the holiest men who ever walked this globe, gave us a solution to quench this fiery flame of sexual desire. The secret is found in this principle
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman." Job 31:1
This is such a simple but earth-changing principle. The only way to live a life free of lust and sexual depravity is to be careful about what you are looking at. Job took it so seriously that he even made a covenant (a binding agreement between two or more parties to stick to certain set conditions) with his eyes. He did not just wish or desire it, he made a binding covenant.
I also picture that it was an entire elaborate ceremony, with animal sacrifice and smoke spiralling to the heavens. He took it very, very seriously and that is why God called him Holy.
The war against lust will be one of the toughest fights of your life. Lust is such a powerful enemy one that once it gets a hold of you, will not relent until it takes your life. That is why you have to fight it with every weapon in yours’ and God’s arsenal. And the starting point is this little song, we all sung at Sunday School, “O be careful little eyes what you see.”
Starting today, you have to place a caveat around your eyes. Stay away or look away from anything that will awaken that fire inside of you (nudity, implied, suggested et al). Stay away from it all. Unfollow all those accounts, stay away from all those red-light streets both offline & on-line. Block those lewd websites, install those accountability tracker softwares. Be very very careful of what your ‘little’ eyes get to see.
Finally, I drafted this Eye Covenant some time back. Download it, print it and sign it together with a witness who will act as your accountability partner. This is basically bringing God into that fight. The word of God tells us that a 3 stranded cord (You, God, & a partner) is not easily broken. Sign it together and never forget to ask for deliverance and healing everyday. Ask God, just like what Gathoni & I did, to erase all those lewd pictures in your mind. And finally to free you from all those memories that seem to be dragging you back to those ‘thirsty’ streets.
I believe and I know that there is nothing that a powerful resolve and an almighty God cannot accomplish together.
TO GOD BE ALL GLORY
We are disciples of Christ, passionate about serving God’s purpose to our generation. We met in 2009 at church, where Ben was directing a play. It was love at 1st sight.
We got married in 2014 in a beautiful wedding surrounded by our family and friends. God has blessed us with 3 kids, Imani, Tendai & Taji.
We live in Nairobi where we run our businesses and take part in serving our community for Christ