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The year 2000 was a great year. The world, as most thought would end, did not end, and Shaggy released one of the biggest bangers of his career, IT WASN’T ME. The story line is basically a man was caught red-handed cheating by his girlfriend. He then calls his friend who advises him that whatever happens, he should deny, deny & deny some more. Hence the title ‘It Wasn’t Me’ πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Shaggy, unfortunately, was not the originator of this song. He just did a more funkier rendition to it. The original composer was the 1st man God created and his name was Adam! Let me break it down for you…According to Genesis 2, God made Adam and placed him in a beautiful garden called Eden. He then gave Adam (before Eve) explicit instruction not to eat from the tree at the centre of the Garden. He then made woman, presented her to Adam, and he named her Eve. One day, as they were both walking together, they encounter the serpent who proceeds to have a conversation with Eve (All this time Adam is standing there saying nothing).

She then takes a bite and gives it to Adam who also eats it. Later on, when God comes to visit them and asks them why the ate of the fruit, Adam speaks first, exonerating himself. IT WASN’T ME LORD (Deny, deny, deny), IT IS THIS WOMAN WHO YOU GAVE ME (Tactically shifts the blame to God) .

So you see, Shaggy and the rest of us men, were just taking notes from the best, the original man, Adam!

My Secret Sin,

Adam & Eve sinned and hid from the Lord, covering their nakedness. They thought that the foliage and the sewed together leaves would hide their sin from the Lord. God saw right through them.

I struggled with a secret sin too and just like our first parents, I learnt how to hide it from the world and especially my wife. It was my little secret and I became an expert at hiding it and covering my tracks. I, like Adam, also knew that if I ever got suspected, then the drill was, deny, deny, deny & if caught just say, IT WASN’T ME πŸ™Š

Gathoni, on the other hand, started getting suspicious and became a self proclaimed Private Investigator. The more she investigated, the more I became adept at destroying all evidence and dusting off the finger-prints of my secret. It reminds me of the now viral story of one Jane MugoπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

The Kenyan DCI should think of recruiting from Kenyan wives, there is definitely no shortage of talent there, courtesy of their dear husbands πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

I kept telling & reassuring myself, that I was protecting her. What she did not know would definitely not hurt her and I could not stand hurting the woman I loved most in all the world. This struggle was mine alone, and I would overcome it and come out the victor. It was easier telling an experience once you had come out of the other side of it.

The Lion Cub

One day, a young man was walking home, when he discovered a tiny, cute baby lion cub abandoned by its mother. He felt mercy for it and took the little cub home with him.

He then started feeding and caring for the cub as the two of them grew quite close. The cub started growing and it was very tame, unlike the wild ones you see on National Geographic. He kept it at home secretly as it was illegal to keep a pet wild animal within a residential setting. Soon enough, the lion became grown and was becoming increasingly difficult to hide. It roared so loudly and kept wanting to jump over the fence to the neighbours. The man loved his pet lion very much and despite people warning him to give it up, he kept it, not wanting to be separated from his baby. One day, when he came home, the lion attacked and killed him, even though it was domesticated, it still had the wild jungle instinct in him.


Just like the little cub, every sin starts tiny, harmless & very innocent. Just a little here, and a little there. No one was harmed, in-fact it was such a fun experience. Forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest, they wisemen said. The bible says this about Eve

When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it.

Gen 3:6

The ‘little sin‘ will then need to be nourished, but instead of milk, it feeds on darkness & secrecy. That is sin’s staple diet. And the more it is fed, the more it begins to grow. And now something that started off as sweet, innocent & harmless, becomes too big to hide anymore. All the time, you’re here thinking that I have it under control, all the while it is mastering you and taking over your life. Sin is deceitful. It does not deliver its promise. Just like the serpent, it had lied on its manifesto. Adam, Eve and the rest of us were hooked simply by the fact that sin, doesn’t present itself as evil. On the contrary, as the bible suggests, it looks good, pleasing and beneficial in gaining wisdom.


Adam, Eve & the man who adopted the cub all discovered the danger of dancing with the enemy TOO LATE. There is nothing more deadlier than sin. The good book reminds us that

Can a man scoop fire into his lap, without his clothes being burned?

Can a man walk on hot coals, without his feet being scorched?

Proverbs 6:27-28

Some of the dangers of toying around with sin are:

1. The Invisible Imprisoner:

Sin binds you and holds you hostage. You live like a man wanted by the Interpol.

Your life becomes all about trying to conceal your sin. It’s like being kidnapped and you cannot tell anyone about it. In fact, you go to every length to show that you are just living a normal life & not being held hostage. Just imagine the irony. So, you come up with several alibis & make up different get away plans (just in case you get caught), all this time feeding it by darkness and secrecy. You are in a prison, my friend and no one knows about it.

2. The Intimacy Killer:

Sin also kills intimacy & openness in relationships.

I always marvelled at the fact that once Adam & Eve took a bite of the forbidden fruit, they realised they were naked and went and covered themselves (Out went intimacy forever). Also, they hid from the Lord, who before this, they’d enjoyed a wonderful and open relationship together. Secret sin is the number 1 killer of intimacy and openness in a marriage. You always have this guilty feeling that makes you want to hide. I once read somewhere that a certain husband has been sleeping in the guest bedroom for about 9 months now, saying that he is self isolating as he wants to protect his wife from catching the virus as a result of his work. Am pretty sure there is some ‘honey’ at that workplace of his that is keeping his as busy as a bee πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

3. The Dream Snatcher

Sin keeps you from the promise that God has for your life. Sin keeps you from living your best life and becoming all that God intended you to become. Since you spend all your time & energy playing host to and concealing your ‘little secret’, you have no energy left to dream let alone become your best. A lot of people with serious potential of becoming great & influential are trapped and held hostage by their secret lives. Also, sin will make you hate yourself, have a low self esteem and think that you are not good enough. This is because the devil knows that if he can keep you pre-occupied with yourself, you will have no time to serve the world with your greatness. Caution friends, that ‘little sin’ is killing your dream!

4. The Great Divider:

Lastly, and most dangerously, sin leads to separation from God. Adam & Eve were thrown out of the Garden of Eden and man’s relationship with God was changed forever. The most dangerous place you can be is separated from God. Look at what Romans 1 says

Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creatorβ€”who is forever praised. Amen. Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

The bible also reminds us that the wages (expected outcome) of sin is DEATH. Separation from God, eventually leads to death. And that is the true picture of Small, cute, innocent sin. In the end you will die.

Is there a way out?

All of us, in one way or the other are prisoners of sin. We were born into it, courtesy of our parents Adam & Eve. It is in our very nature to sin, just that we sin differently. A lot of wives especially think that their husband’s sins are greater compared to their ‘little sin’ (We will cover this tomorrow). No sin is greater than the other, just different. At the end of the day, sin is sin, whether visible to others or not, it is sin.

Is there a way out?

Yes, there is a way out, and the word of God provides wonderful answers to all those held hostage by their ‘secret sin‘. There is hope for all those who feel powerless and enslaved by it. I love the way the bible reminds us that there is ‘Nothing new under the sun‘. Everything that you are facing today is not unique to you and for everything there is a time & season. It’s about time for this dark season of your life to end, and for your life & marriage to be restored In JESUS’ name.

Tomorrow (God willing) we talk about ‘Getting Out’ of your secret sin

Glory Be to God

The Kiruthis

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  • Paul Mwangi

    Everything that you are facing today is not unique to you and for everything there’s a time and season, so encouraging…Nice read, Thanks Ben… Looking forward to the next blog

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  • Ndirangu D

    Amazing reminder, The knowledge we trust for. Thanks for this

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